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Excellen Browning

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  1. IF you're gonna apologize to someone, make sure you state why it made them angry. They'll feel like you understand them, and it's good practice in understanding people. And don't get all self-righteous and say stuff like "I just forget and stuff you know", they don't care why you dunnit, only that you dunnit.

  2. Not to mention what happened to his grey/white hair. I think this is gonna be one of those "spiritual successors" you get so often these days... And by that I mean it's likely going to suck.

  3. Because she really isn't and that's not what anyone actually said (in this thread at least). As for Titania, you're gonna use her early game if you want to have low turn counts, and she doesn't really hold you up in mid-late game. She only begins to falter in endgame. Marcia and Jill join you after the early game part where reliance on Titania is pretty much forced, then slow you down a little because they're underleveled and understatted, but soon become much better.

    I don't think they'll be able to make up for the turns Titania saved in early game, though.

  4. Virtually all games nominated are from japan? Man, we need some more western games in here.

    I nominate:

    Deus Ex

    Dragon age: Origins

    Supreme Commander

    Mass Effect 2

    Grand Theft Auto 4

    Battlefield: Bad Company 2

    Total Annihilation

    silly silly me

  5. It might be better to start out with an easy game like FE8. This game can be Seth/Eirika duo'd so playing with a small pool of characters should be fine. The game having an amount of useless characters could also make the bidding easier, because there'd be less characters to care about.

    Often these things come down to just trying it, and then optimizing it.

  6. first crush and kiss were from a girl named Suzanne. First real, pretty obsessive love was a girl named Tessa. Always had a stormy relationship with her, though we never hooked up.

    I'm amused how I'm like the only one in my group of friends who actually dares to ask girls out.

  7. I usually read books about the philosophy of life. Also various books on psychology. Tried Nietzsche and found it almost impossible to read through, read and at various points agree with Machiavelli. Tried reading a book by Sonya Lyubomirsky and found she doesn't do whatever she set out to do. She sets out to prove that various forms of self help therapies can be very effective and all she does, at best, is name some empirical evidence, while leaving out the behind-lying mechanisms.

    Also I recently read Lolita. I didn't see any of the black humor most people say it has, but it certainly is a very well-written tale and very enjoyable.

  8. I will also list somethings to do, then. These relate to not dealing with a specific problem but with unhappiness in general.

    1. Show your gratitude. It might seem strange to list this, but showing gratitude is sort of acknowledging the good things that happen in your life. You could take some time every week and jot down some things that happened you are grateful for or feel good about. Hugging someone, someone complimenting you, someone doing something small for you, someone making you laugh when you need to laugh. They can be small things, they can be very important things, write them down.

    2. cultivate your optimism. This one also seems like bullshit, but stay with me. Optimism to people who disagree with me is thinking everything will turn out good and blindly seeing good in everything. While that in itself is noble, it is highly delusional. Optimism is accepting the good AND the bad in life, but attaching a higher value to the good. It might also mean learning to see there is actually something good.

    3. Be friendly. Might also be surprising, but being friendly makes you feel better about yourself. You are hardwired to. And you WANT to feel good about yourself. Don't force yourself to put on a smile or sound nice. Being friendly is about the deed itself, not the smile you wear while doing it. Carry your (grand)ma's groceries some time, help someone who asks for help on the street. You might consider helping other people for your gain selfish. Let me just say it isn't. Nothing can be done without some sort of moral compromise.

    4. cherish your friendships. Also pretty obvious. One reason to do this is having good friendships will result in having a strong safety net to get you back out, if you fall in the pits. Secondly social interaction is pleasant. Also, don't take your friends (or your lover) for granted.

    note: And don't give me that people are dumb and annoying. If your IQ were 150 you'd have somewhat of a right to say that, but you aren't nearly as smart. What you want to talk about are things that have meaning, substance. What other people want to talk about is what they did last weekend, what they're going to do the next one, what books or films they've watched recently and how they think of them. They will stop wanting to talk with you if you try to force them into talking about important matters. There is a time and place for that, but most importantly an amount of trust you must have acquired for them to start opening parts of their real selves to you. People are shy, scared even. They don't want to open themselves because they're afraid they'll get hurt. You could open yourself to them first, or be a fun person to be with at first, and then understand and don't judge them when they start to open up a bit to you. Serious discussion also forces you to open up parts of yourself.

    note 2: you should obviously keep up with normal life if you want to have stuff to talk about. Read books, watch recent movies, listen to popular songs at least once to have an actual opinion about them. If you've seen or (partly)read or heard or (partly)played it and thought it was crap, at least you've gained an opinion about it.

    5. learn to forgive. Obviousness abounds, it seems. Forgiving is giving closure, whether or not you tell the people who wronged you that you forgive them. I forgive my father for his alcoholism, I forgive my friend for not being there when I needed him most, I forgive the guy who ran me down with his car, I forgive my brother for humiliating me in public. There are a lot of things you are likely to be angry about. Things that happened or someone close to you that appal you, go against your most fundamental beliefs. I don't have to explain to you how trying to get revenge is self destructive and how there is no logical reason to do it. Same as for forgiving. It doesn't take into account your hurt feelings, but the only thing you can do that won't make you end up worse is eventually forgiving. Getting it out of your mind is a temporary solution at best. Sometimes you can't find in yourself the ability to forgive, and I guess that means you need more time to heal. Sometimes you even end up needing so much time you're dead before you forgave whoever wronged you. If it has to be like that then let it be like that, but don't use it as an excuse.

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