For 1st/2nd dates, usually girls want to go somewhere public (for safety reasons) and somewhere you can talk (so that eliminates a movie theater). For me, the bowling/mini golf thing is horrible. You can do that stuff if you are already boyfriend/girlfriend. Going to dinner (doesn't have to be a fancy restaurant, just go to local diner, or an Applebees or something), a park (weather pending), or just walk around the mall and socialize (what girl doesn't like shopping?) are good for starters.