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I'm sure there are some out there. I have a male cousin with Asperger's, who's said he wasn't interested in sex, but I'm not sure if he wants anything romantic at all. It's something that I didn't really go too in depth about.

Yeah, I'm sure there are some out there too, I just think they're very hard to find. But interesting.

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I've been unable to take good pictures of Leo lately. He's such an active little guy, all the pictures turn out blurry, and if I try to go in for a closeup, he tries to reach out and grab the camera. Oh well.

Is it weird that I find myself wanting to breastfeed? I just want to hold my baby close and get that warm, nice feeling. Leo's been weaned for a while now.

Yeah, I'm sure there are some out there too, I just think they're very hard to find. But interesting.

Yeah, I would have loved to talk with him about it, and I love discussing things like that and sexual mentality from a strictly psychological standpoint, but unfortunately, it makes people uncomfortable, and it's a bit awkward to ask your little cousin about that sort of thing, considering I knew him as a baby.

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I'm probably a terrible person for voicing that, but I just think it would do more harm than good there, even if you try to act like it wouldn't. I just think adoption is a better option in that situation.

You're far from a terrible person! I don't know if I could do in-vitro at all, if only because at least with adoption you usually have a chance to find out who the bio-parents are. With sperm donation from a sperm bank, I'd be a little concerned about all the potential bio-siblings out there (there's at least one case of a man fathering over 100 children through sperm donation). That said, those are my personal feelings on the matter, and in-vitro has been a great method for a few friends of mine.

I've been unable to take good pictures of Leo lately. He's such an active little guy, all the pictures turn out blurry, and if I try to go in for a closeup, he tries to reach out and grab the camera. Oh well.

Is it weird that I find myself wanting to breastfeed? I just want to hold my baby close and get that warm, nice feeling. Leo's been weaned for a while now.

Oh, the blurry photos! I probably get 1 decent photo for every 50 that I take.

It's not weird. Right now I am soooo over breastfeeding, though. I want to wean Niko but I'm also scared of weaning him because of how convenient breastfeeding is. I don't know how I'd get him to sleep, otherwise. He sleeps poorly enough as it is.

My kids have huge feet. Niko's in a size 7 now. He's only 16 months!

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My Lil ones... are a handsome three year old Lil boy, who is ridiculously like me and far too smart for his own good. Along with our one year old daughter. Who is ridiculously like my wife.

Daddy's little Ace and Princess. :)

I do not tend to talk about them online much... or keep it super general as I am maybe a bit overprotective. XD

I love my family though... would not trade them for the world.

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Welcome, Errantblacksheep!

How would it work if you adopted a child and did not have access to breast milk? I don't exactly know how necessary it is or anything which is why I ask.

Formula works as well as breast milk, honestly. The one benefit breastmilk has over formula is it provides some extra antibodies, but that's on a short term basis, and long-term there's been no marked differences between children raised on formula and children raised on breastmilk.

I supplemented with formula from 5 months with both kids, anyway, because fuck pumping.

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How would it work if you adopted a child and did not have access to breast milk? I don't exactly know how necessary it is or anything which is why I ask.

As Res said, there's formula. Leo was almost exclusively breast fed. Partly, because we wanted to, but also partly because he didn't like the formula and only wanted milk.

I personally was mostly formula as a baby. My mother for whatever reason had difficulty producing milk or something. I never really got into detail asking her.

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Niko had his 18 month appointment a couple of weeks early today.

He's still in the 90th percentile for height; he's 34". Anya didn't reach 34" until nearly 2.5 years. (He lost weight so he dropped percentiles there).

If he continues on the same curve, he'll likely be as tall as his grandpas (around 6'2) which would make him 8 inches taller than his dad and nearly a foot taller than his sister (Anya's always been petite).

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Niko had his 18 month appointment a couple of weeks early today.

He's still in the 90th percentile for height; he's 34". Anya didn't reach 34" until nearly 2.5 years. (He lost weight so he dropped percentiles there).

If he continues on the same curve, he'll likely be as tall as his grandpas (around 6'2) which would make him 8 inches taller than his dad and nearly a foot taller than his sister (Anya's always been petite).

Out of curiosity, how tall are you? I read somewhere that 99% of boys end up taller than their moms.

Leo's a bit lanky. He's already about the same height as his older cousin, who is about 8 months older than him. I need to schedule Leo's next appointment.

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I'm 5'7, and the shortest in my family!

And yes; I heard the rule of thumb was that boys are typically at least 2" taller than their mothers, and that's about the only consistent height 'rule'! So I bet Leo will be really tall. :) Genetics are fascinating. My paternal grandparents are 5'2 (grandmother) and 5'10 (grandfather); their sons, though, are 6'5, 6'4 and 6'2.

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I'm 5'7, and the shortest in my family!

And yes; I heard the rule of thumb was that boys are typically at least 2" taller than their mothers, and that's about the only consistent height 'rule'! So I bet Leo will be really tall. :) Genetics are fascinating. My paternal grandparents are 5'2 (grandmother) and 5'10 (grandfather); their sons, though, are 6'5, 6'4 and 6'2.

I'm one of the tallest in my family. My mom is like 5'nothing, my dad is 5'11", and my sister is about 5'6". I think my grandmothers were 5'2" and about 5'4-5ish". And my grandfathers were 5'8" and 6'. I've got a couple male cousins taller than me, but no female ones. All my blood aunts and uncles are shorter or equal to my height. My father-in-law was adopted, so it's almost impossible to say what sort of genes he gets from that side, and my mother-in-law's family seems to be average for height. Leo's got a mix of short and tall genes in there, but I bet he's be at least my height or so.

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My Lil ones... are a handsome three year old Lil boy, who is ridiculously like me and far too smart for his own good. Along with our one year old daughter. Who is ridiculously like my wife.

Daddy's little Ace and Princess. :)

I do not tend to talk about them online much... or keep it super general as I am maybe a bit overprotective. XD

I love my family though... would not trade them for the world.

Hi, fellow dad! It sounds like you have the same gender and age spread that I will.

We're beginning to try to potty train my little guy. Anyone have any tips?

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I'm the smallest not counting any children in the family. ...Actually, one of my cousins' kids is probably taller than me now, and she's 12, I think. But of the adults, I'm the smallest by a good margin. And those kids will all probably outgrow me later too. My parents were never tall, and I actually stopped growing in early middle school, I'm pretty sure. I'm not even 5 feet tall.

Just another thing to add to the list of reasons I refuse to get pregnant (scared as shit of it, I have autism and don't want to pass that down, etc etc). My body is too small to handle it. I'd probably always be forced to get a c-section because a baby won't fit through my tiny pelvis. And I don't think any sane woman would want that.

Yet, my late grandma was tall, and so was my mom's brother and my late younger brother. So height is sorta split in my mom's line. But not really there in my dad's. Nobody's tall in that family. Mostly short to average.

But I'm glad adoption is an option, if this ever happens for me.

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I'm the smallest not counting any children in the family. ...Actually, one of my cousins' kids is probably taller than me now, and she's 12, I think. But of the adults, I'm the smallest by a good margin. And those kids will all probably outgrow me later too. My parents were never tall, and I actually stopped growing in early middle school, I'm pretty sure. I'm not even 5 feet tall.

Just another thing to add to the list of reasons I refuse to get pregnant (scared as shit of it, I have autism and don't want to pass that down, etc etc). My body is too small to handle it. I'd probably always be forced to get a c-section because a baby won't fit through my tiny pelvis. And I don't think any sane woman would want that.

Yet, my late grandma was tall, and so was my mom's brother and my late younger brother. So height is sorta split in my mom's line. But not really there in my dad's. Nobody's tall in that family. Mostly short to average.

But I'm glad adoption is an option, if this ever happens for me.

Speaking of inherited personality, I think Leo's inherited my preference for order. He loves playing with cars, but he's always lining them up in a neat line, and he gets mad when you move them.

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I didn't say anything about personality... But lol.

I said autism, which is an actual behavioral/developmental disorder. You said you have a cousin who has the same, Rezzy, so I thought you'd know what I meant, my bad. But autism has been known to be inherited. There's a high chance I would birth a kid who has it, and even higher if my husband is also autistic.

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I didn't say anything about personality... But lol.

I said autism, which is an actual behavioral/developmental disorder. You said you have a cousin who has the same, Rezzy, so I thought you'd know what I meant, my bad. But autism has been known to be inherited. There's a high chance I would birth a kid who has it, and even higher if my husband is also autistic.

Yeah, I knew about that. I was alluding to the fact that I've actually been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which hopefully Leo doesn't have, but I did the same sort of stuff when I was his age, so we'll see.

It's hard to see where personality quirks end and diagnosable conditions begin, sometimes.

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It's hard to see where personality quirks end and diagnosable conditions begin, sometimes.

Yes!

I have a few strong quirks which, combined with some of the issues I had as a child (didn't speak until 4, was very socially immature), sometimes make me wonder... but overall, nothing's really interfered with adult life (I have a lot of anxiety, but not to the extent my husband does, where he will throw up and can't physically eat if he goes unmedicated).

Anyway, Niko loves to line up cars and trains, too, and gets very irate if you move them. He loves it when I count them for him. :)

Re. potty-training... to be honest, Anya showed very little interest in going, so I actually waited until she was nearly 3 to potty-train her. Shortly after she'd turned 2 she'd sometimes go for me, but she refused to go for my mother-in-law/husband, so we didn't push it. She was super easy to train in the end; we probably could've trained her earlier, but at least it was no problem when we finally did.

We were in the ER yesterday; breathing treatments at home with albuterol and the nebulizer weren't cutting it for Anya. She woke up struggling to breathe, always scary. She's on prednisone for the next 5 days so she was literally bouncing off the walls yesterday and kept us awake half the night. We have an appointment with an asthma specialist today because her pediatrician suspects she has asthma (this is the second time we've ended up in the ER after a mild cold has turned into her being unable to breathe).

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Leo's getting good with his numbers. He knows 1-9 and is doing well counting. Once he gets past 9, ten is one-oh, though.

Yes!

I have a few strong quirks which, combined with some of the issues I had as a child (didn't speak until 4, was very socially immature), sometimes make me wonder... but overall, nothing's really interfered with adult life (I have a lot of anxiety, but not to the extent my husband does, where he will throw up and can't physically eat if he goes unmedicated).

Anyway, Niko loves to line up cars and trains, too, and gets very irate if you move them. He loves it when I count them for him. :)

Re. potty-training... to be honest, Anya showed very little interest in going, so I actually waited until she was nearly 3 to potty-train her. Shortly after she'd turned 2 she'd sometimes go for me, but she refused to go for my mother-in-law/husband, so we didn't push it. She was super easy to train in the end; we probably could've trained her earlier, but at least it was no problem when we finally did.

We were in the ER yesterday; breathing treatments at home with albuterol and the nebulizer weren't cutting it for Anya. She woke up struggling to breathe, always scary. She's on prednisone for the next 5 days so she was literally bouncing off the walls yesterday and kept us awake half the night. We have an appointment with an asthma specialist today because her pediatrician suspects she has asthma (this is the second time we've ended up in the ER after a mild cold has turned into her being unable to breathe).

Sorry to hear that, hope she's doing well.
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Possibly good news; the asthma specialist said it may not be asthma. He thinks she has a chronic sinus infection that was never properly treated. Hopefully that's the case - if so, there may be no long lasting effects. He gave us an aggressive form of treatment (steroids, antibiotics and albuterol for the next 20 days) to hopefully try and kick it for good.

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Oh wow. If that doesn't work, Res, I keep hearing this advertisement on the radio for something called balloon sinuplasty or something. I don't know how to spell it, but the second word is pronounced "sine-yoo-plas-tee." It's supposed to be for chronic sinus infections, though it may be geared more toward those who get them often, not really people who only get them once or twice.

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This is something that came up while I was visiting my godson, but when do you guys think it's good to start "training" a baby to speak, or if it's even especially needed.

During a check-up, his mom had been told to start it. Considering my godson is only one and a half years old, we found this a bit weird. I don't think he's especially undeveloped on it either (my comparison point being the other kids in the family). His mom did say it almost felt like the doctor made this remark just to criticize them of something since there wasn't anything wrong with his health.

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Possibly good news; the asthma specialist said it may not be asthma. He thinks she has a chronic sinus infection that was never properly treated. Hopefully that's the case - if so, there may be no long lasting effects. He gave us an aggressive form of treatment (steroids, antibiotics and albuterol for the next 20 days) to hopefully try and kick it for good.

are the steroids oral? i remember oral steroids being the absolute most disgusting thing i ever tasted, so if she hasn't had them before, watch out haha. also, it's good that it's not asthma, breathing treatments not working sounds kinda scary.

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This is something that came up while I was visiting my godson, but when do you guys think it's good to start "training" a baby to speak, or if it's even especially needed.

During a check-up, his mom had been told to start it. Considering my godson is only one and a half years old, we found this a bit weird. I don't think he's especially undeveloped on it either (my comparison point being the other kids in the family). His mom did say it almost felt like the doctor made this remark just to criticize them of something since there wasn't anything wrong with his health.

The only thing needed with most kids is to talk to them, as an adult, and not to use 'baby-talk'. At 18 months many kids aren't even speaking and are perfectly fine (although if they have zero words the pediatrician will want to see other indications of language - babbling, pointing/gesturing, looking to you when you speak, follows simple commands). Two years is usually when you might start to identify speech issues; earlier intervention is really for the kids who aren't doing any of the aforementioned things. So yeah, to me it sounds as if doctor was in a bad mood.

are the steroids oral? i remember oral steroids being the absolute most disgusting thing i ever tasted, so if she hasn't had them before, watch out haha. also, it's good that it's not asthma, breathing treatments not working sounds kinda scary.

The first lot were! She's weaned off them now, her current steroids are inhaled. She didn't complain too much about the oral steroids but she haaates the antibiotics she's on. I usually bribe her with yoghurt/chocolate milk/Pokemon.

Pokemon fever has hit hard in our house; we've watched every free episode available on Netflix/Prime. Anya's really good at recognizing Pokemon, too. She knows far more than me. She takes her Pikachu and Froakie plushies to bed with her, and Niko has slept every night for the past two weeks with his Chespin plush.

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