Men of Serenes Forest!

[NinjaMonkey]

5 hours ago, XRay said:

I guess you are not part of the stereotype.

Thankfully, yes.

[XRay]

Any of you guys like cars, planes, or ships?

I like big and fast things. I want a double decker RV bus (Trucks are for pansies. I like the F-450 though.) that tows another double decker bus/trailer. My dream car so far is Bugatti Veyron, but hopefully, a faster car will replace that soon. My favorite car motto is Benz's "all or nothing," which is kind of sad that a pleb company like them took it since that motto is more apt for Rolls-Royce or Bugatti in my opinion. Yeah, I am a huge car snob.

My inner plane snob is an even bigger douche (You want me touch a filthy steering wheel and DRIVE? I FLY!) Anyway, if I could ever afford it, I want to pimp out my own A380 like the Saudis have. Although it might not be able to land in a lot of airports, I figured that once I have that amount of money, I would just build my own private airport at the destination instead.

As for ships, the Oasis class cruise ships from Royal Caribbean are the biggest I think. Cargo ships are even bigger. What I want is something along the size of Pioneering Spirit, a huge ship that can move oil platforms around.

Oh! I forgot about trains, but I have not really looked into them, I cannot really comment on it much.

[Pengaius]

Well, I like sleek, smooth looking cars and the performance is secondary (then again I can't drive so what do I know) and I'm incapable of staying awake on a plane or bus. I've been on a few ferries, but I can't remember em. But hands down the best type of transportation is the train, trains are comfy (at least the good ones) 

anyway, speaking of typical guy stuff, anybody here a real macho, man's man. 

[Johann]

1 hour ago, Pengaius said:

But hands down the best type of transportation is the train, trains are comfy (at least the good ones) 

This is the truth

1 hour ago, Pengaius said:

anyway, speaking of typical guy stuff, anybody here a real macho, man's man. 

Machismo is for the insecure.

As for me, I just got back from seeing Mamma Mia 2 while wearing a grandpa sweater and singing all the words out loud. It was awesome.

[Excellen Browning]

I like racing cars. Not the aesthetic, but the hobby. Stripped out shells with engine swaps, racing suspension and slicks are my jam. I would never watch racing from anything but an in-car camera that approximates what the driver sees. That's much more exhilarating to see.

[Integrity]

i never cared about car racing but then parrhesia compared nascar to modern day jousting, with the sponsors being basically heraldry, and i fell in love with the comparison

[XRay]

On 7/20/2018 at 7:46 PM, Pengaius said:

anybody here a real macho, man's man. 

Does wearing pink count as being macho?

The only reason most guys do not wear pink is because they are not macho enough. Their mentality is too feminine in that they get caught up in what others think of them. They reek of fear.

I am not afraid of what others think of me, so I wear pink sometimes to show the boys how to dress like a real man.

Jokes aside, no, I am not macho. I do wear pink though when I am overflowing with confidence. The pink helps me standout, and, in a way, makes me feel even more manly.

Edited July 23, 2018 by XRay

[Sidereal Wraith]

I’m a man because I travel the world to insure that Mournblade stays sated. London was never the same again.

[Pengaius]

42 minutes ago, XRay said:

Does wearing pink count as being macho?

The only reason most guys do not wear pink is because they are not macho enough. Their mentality is too feminine in that they get caught up in what others think of them. They reek of fear.

I am not afraid of what others think of me, so I wear pink sometimes to show the boys how to dress like a real man.

Jokes aside, no, I am not macho. I do wear pink though when I am overflowing with confidence. The pink helps me standout, and, in a way, makes me feel even more manly.

Pink yes very macho, especially if you flex your muscles and rip your shirt open, exposing your rock hard absno homo

[XRay]

16 hours ago, Pengaius said:

Pink yes very macho, especially if you flex your muscles and rip your shirt open, exposing your rock hard absno homo

Would not gayness be the ultimate form of macho expression? A guy is so macho that his significant other is also a macho dude too.

[Interdimensional Observer]

17 hours ago, Pengaius said:

Pink yes very macho, especially if you flex your muscles and rip your shirt open, exposing your rock hard absno homo

Pink was, so I was told by a history professor, once a boy's color, circa late 1800s-early 1900s. Pink is a very light shade of red, red is the color of blood, and blood and guts and sweat is a very MANLY thing. Pink being an immature red, is thus the appropriate color for an immature man, a boy.

 

1 hour ago, XRay said:

Would not gayness be the ultimate form of macho expression? A guy is so macho that his significant other is also a macho dude too.

The Japanese Bara stereotype is effeminate male bodybuilders. The stereotype is offensive to gays though.

You sometimes see it in video games, like with the carpenters in Zelda, notice how when you set them free from Gerudo imprisonment in OoT they leave with arms swaying so carefree? Also most of the Paul-Jasmine bandit duos in FE (Pain and Agony are not Bara).

I think this Machoke card from Pokemon I remember seeing as a kid might hint at Bara too, but I'm not totally sure. It's a Pokemon anyhow, don't want to read too much into it.

[Shoblongoo]

On 7/21/2018 at 4:22 PM, Integrity said:

i never cared about car racing but then parrhesia compared nascar to modern day jousting, with the sponsors being basically heraldry, and i fell in love with the comparison

ohhhhhhh. I'm going to have to use that one at some point.

_______

I like Jeeps. First car I ever owned was a 2006 Jeep Liberty--lasted a solid 10 years. Drove it up to Massachusetts, down to Tennessee, and everywhere in between. Survived blizzards, Hurricane Sandy, youthful indiscretions, and no shortage of sex stains in the back seat.   

Currently driving a 2017 Nissan Rogue. Not the most manly of vehicles, but it gets the job done. 

[XRay]

26 minutes ago, Interdimensional Observer said:

Pink was, so I was told by a history professor, once a boy's color, circa late 1800s-early 1900s. Pink is a very light shade of red, red is the color of blood, and blood and guts and sweat is a very MANLY thing. Pink being an immature red, is thus the appropriate color for an immature man, a boy.

That means when I wear pink, I am not actually telling boys how to dress like men, but to dress like a normal boy. Just like that, I feel less manly already.

26 minutes ago, Interdimensional Observer said:

The Japanese Bara stereotype is effeminate male bodybuilders. The stereotype is offensive to gays though.

Did a little more reading on Bara on Wikipedia, and apparently, Bara is considered different from Yaoi, with Bara primarily for men and Yaoi for women. Interesting stuff.

[Johann]

2 hours ago, Interdimensional Observer said:

The Japanese Bara stereotype is effeminate male bodybuilders. The stereotype is offensive to gays though.

Huh, I always figured Bara was just a Japan-ified version of bears

 

[Belisarius]

On 7/24/2018 at 11:51 AM, XRay said:

Would not gayness be the ultimate form of macho expression? A guy is so macho that his significant other is also a macho dude too.

my dads could beat up your dads

[Pengaius]

22 hours ago, Belisarius said:

my dads could beat up your dads

My dad is 18 stone and has diabetes, he'll sit on your dad, FATALITY

[Shoblongoo]

...oh Japan...

Producing 72% of the world's weird shit since 1952 



 

[NinjaMonkey]

I'd ask about what the hell is going on there, but I'm afraid of what the answer will be.

[XRay]

2 hours ago, NinjaMonkey said:

I'd ask about what the hell is going on there, but I'm afraid of what the answer will be.

I think the dude is taking life energy from the girl's baby to give birth to his yellow poop.

[MacLovin]

16 hours ago, Shoblongoo said:

...oh Japan...

Producing 72% of the world's weird shit since 1952 



 

is this a drug ad?

[Pengaius]

Well nobody's said anything for a while, so what kind of soups do y'all like, I'm partial to a nice herby chicken veg soup myself. 

[MacLovin]

chili con carne and ramen.

[Johann]

Sorry soup fans, I'm hijacking two threads at once, cuz this shit will probably be of use to more than just @Junkhead:

On 7/28/2018 at 10:03 PM, Junkhead said:

like if anyone wants to hear my honest, serious opinion on the subject for once, I'm feeling like that

I'm kind of (really) weird about relationships as a whole, and I feel about them. Even when I go on Tinder (yes I do this, sometimes) I'm sometimes worried the chick is going to actually swipe right/"Like"/whatever. Even when I talked to chicks in the past, I kind stopped at some point because I'm quoteafraidunquote of having a girlfriend. Like, how does that even work. Even the very dynamic of how it "happens" is probably rocket science, to me. Like I said, I've met plenty of "nerdy" people who've been in at least one relationship, which suggests these things just kind of happen, whether you're a very extroverted person or even somewhat of a "loner".

Alright first off, it's good that you're being sincere about this finally. I can't stand your spammy threads but you're still a person reaching out, which does deserve a real response. Plus, there's a decent chance that whatever is said in seriousness will help someone else reading instead of just you. Be more open about what's troubling you if you want support-- nobody here is going to shit on you for being honest.

Ok, so while I don't know you beyond your posts here, I can say there's several things you need to always be thinking about, all of which are tied together:

WHAT DO YOU ACTUALLY WANT (or "what really is a relationship?")
"Getting laid" isn't the solution to whatever is bothering you (I'm definitely not going to let the thread title slide). There's clearly more that you want than just having sex. Now it's normal to have anxiety about relationships (even among people with considerable experience), so it may help to know that everyone feels uncertain at some point. Still, is a relationship your goal here? If so, why? Your post makes it sound as if you haven't had one before (which I insist is far more common and normal than it would seem).

It's important to understand what your life is like when you're in a relationship; it's basically a friendship where you also happen to be attracted to each other and (ideally) don't have to hide what you're thinking of feeling. It is NOT sex whenever/however you want-- if you just want orgasms on call, you'd be better off sticking to masturbation. Even if you were to date someone who only wants sex all the time, you may find it ultimately unsatisfying that your other interests aren't shared.

The best approach you can have is to simply get to know people and let them reveal who they are and what they like over time, without coercion or aggressive prompting. Don't force anything to advance or happen. It's not uncommon for people to get into a relationship quickly and almost immediately realize that they shouldn't be with that person. Don't go in with any expectations, take your time and let people/the world surprise you. Accept also that you're going to have bad experiences no matter what, but there's something to learn from everything and everyone, including things about yourself.

CONFIDENCE
All the pep talks in the world I can give might not help, but understand that I've seen all manner of people succeed when they genuinely believe in themselves. One of the most confident dudes I know is balding, not especially bright, poor as shit, can't drive, goes to comic conventions, and has a stunted T-rex arm. He's awkward as can be, but damn if he doesn't put himself out there, whether it's to talk to a girl or sing in front of hundreds of people. Sure enough, he can get dates and girlfriends. Whatever problems you have can either be worked on (like shitty behavior) or disregarded (like medical things) as long as you're respectful and at the very least fun.

What builds confidence best is succeeding, but you can't succeed if you hide away and never try aything. I'd recommend doing some kind of public activity, like dancing or reading poetry if you have public places for those kinds of things. Even if you can't put yourself on say, the dancefloor right away, simply being in those places and watching others can help inspire you, if only because it's clear how much goddamn fun they're having. It quickly becomes clear that they're not really thinking about who is watching them, and just letting loose because it's what they like to do.

The internet isn't a very good place to cultivate confidence unless you're in youtube videos or something as yourself. While someone might like your posts on here or reddit or whatever, that sensation is fleeting (ironic given that the content itself stays there) and never as personal as someone looking you in the eye and saying "hey, you're really good!" Making spammy joke threads isn't doing anything for you either. It's obnoxious really, knock that shit off. Internet accolades don't mean shit cuz it comes from anonymous faces that aren't going to be there when you are actually looking for companionship.

RESPECT (or, "it's not all about you, you prick")
Gotta bring up how shitty this thread started again, and I don't even mean how it's all jokey and shitposty. When you (or any guy) talks about getting laid, it sends a message, whether you realize it or not, that not only is having sex your goal, but you really don't give a shit about the person you would be having sex with. It says that you're just in it for your own satisfaction, in which case, you can literally go fuck yourself. After all, why should anyone care about you and your getting off when you can be bothered to care about even the person you're with?

Whether or not that's what you're feeling, sending the right message is important. If you don't actually care about someone, don't get get involved with them, or else you're wasting your time and their's, especially if you're pretending to care. Don't look to movies, TV, games, anime, porn, whatever as a reference for how to treat anyone or things to expect. Instead, you have to always be thinking about how it would feel for someone to treat you the way you're treating someone else.

You should also consider that the world is pretty fucking sexist. Make yourself aware of the fact that women have to deal with a disproportionate amount of bullshit or downright abuse. A very high rate of women have been sexual assaulted in one way or another. A lot of men are also extremely aggressive, especially when rejected. With that in mind, you have to understand that a woman owes you nothing, and you need to respect her boundaries. If you are shot down, don't blame her, pester her, and especially not take it out on her. If you're any kind of decent human being, you'll just accept it and move on.

GET OUT THERE
The internet is a pretty disappointing place for meeting someone. Even dating sites/apps are notorious for being shitshows. You can give those a shot, and it might work out, though I think it's not enough to hope for the best there. Instead, explore what's around you. Check out art galleries, music halls/venues, and other places where even if you don't talk to anybody, you can still have a good time (but are still approachable). Bars are crap for meeting people unless you're there to dance, listen to a band, or are there with friends who aren't there looking to "get laid".

Meeting someone shouldn't be your priority, it will come naturally if you're enjoying what's happening. Being around other people (especially if it's a diverse group) also helps cultivate your ability to read what people are thinking and feeling, even if you're not actively engaging them all. Part of your problem may stem from having limited social experience, so this kind of development can be rather essential. It might help to make conversation with people who are pleasant but not specifically someone you're trying to be best friends with (like say, a random middle aged person). You can just talk with them and be nice and learn things, and there's nothing at stake if you embarass yourself or never see them again.

Just as much as you shouldn't force anything to happen with someone else, you don't need to force yourself to get out there. Go when you feel good about it, but remind yourself that every chance you take gives you a better shot of finding what you want. There's too much shitty internet culture that will give you bad ideas, bad impressions, or otherwise derail you with endless attention-sapping junk. Don't let that stuff get in your way, it's only hindering your growth. If you don't get out and grow, you'll probably stay a lonely child your whole life, and have nobody to blame but yourself.

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@Pengaius I make a pretty good soup with sausage, onion, spinach, tomato, rice, and some cheese on top

[Excellen Browning]

don't crosspost from other threads.

[Tediz64]

I concur. That message needs to have at the very end of it "in my opinion" because that is exactly what is. Relationship Dynamics don't all work like that idealistic stuff you just wrote. Some are more business oriented, some are more fluid like polyamorous, some are more casual with little commitment and etc. What you described sounded like a romance out of the 90s. You definitely need to mention that what you said isn't applicable to all relationships otherwise alot of people can rush in and tell you that is wrong and not at all how it works.

Edit: let me reiterate, I don't disagree with what your saying, but that isn't applicable to all. That only applies to some people's style of dating. Some people have different approaches to seeking out partners

. @Junkhead take what he said with a grain of salt ok.

Now back to soups, I don't eat very many soups but if I had to pick a favorite, I'd go with my homemade spread. 2 ramen noodles with chili, sliced up hot dog weenies, Fritos, and maybe some shredded cheese. That is super delicious in winter. I don't eat it any other time of the year

Edited July 30, 2018 by Tediz64