Rest in peace, Dad

[Lord_Brand]

Earlier tonight, I received a text from my father's fiancee that the two of them have been seriously sick. My father in particular hasn't been able to keep food or drink down, and was taken by an ambulance to the hospital. A little while later, I receive another text telling me the hospital thinks he has appendicitis and are waiting for a CAT scan.

I told my father that I hope he makes a full recovery, and thanked him for all that he has taught me and for the times he helped me when I needed it. In the hopes of helping him recover, I told him that I love him for probably the first time in fifteen years. In case the worst happens, I wanted to make sure the last words he heard from me were something pleasant.

We've had a long and complicated history with him. As a young child, I loved him as any son should. My parents going through divorce really upset me as a child. Then, at the start of my teen years, I learned things about him from my mother that made me hate his guts. In my late teens, we had to stay at his then-best friend's house and later his parents' house, both of which were extremely unpleasant and uncomfortable times for us (and downright scary in the case of the former for reasons I will not delve into without my mother's consent). Eventually we moved out at my grandfather's insistence and wound up in the apartments where we've lived for the past 14-15 years, which we've been trying to move out of ever since. During those times, our relationship with my father has been a rollercoaster. But for the last 5-7 years, we've maintained a mostly civil relationship with him, largely due to his continued financial support (primarily from the military due to my mother being married to him during his service in the Navy).

UPDATE: Apparently, the actual issue is inflamed bowels, which are being discharged.

UPDATE: My father is now dead. He died close to 11:30 AM on 01/23. May he rest in peace.

Edited January 24 by Lord_Brand

[EricaofRenais]

I know how hard it can be seeing family get sick and I am glad to hear that your dad will be ok.  family relationships can be really hard to deal with I hope you can find what works for you and not have any regrets in the long run.

[Shanty Pete's 1st Mate]

Sounds like a very difficult situation. Here's wishing your father well! 

[Sooks]

I’m glad it’s looking like he’ll pull through and I hope he actually does pull through!

[Lord_Brand]

I just got a call from his fiancee. He's dead. Died an hour ago. Paramedics worked for 30 minutes trying to resuscitate him.

Rest in peace, Dad.

Edited January 24 by Lord_Brand

[Dayni]

My condolences Lord_Brand.

[Shanty Pete's 1st Mate]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family can find some source of comfort as you mourn him.

[vanguard333]

My condolences.

[Benice]

I'm sorry for your loss. I really hope that your family will be able to support one another through these tough times.

Edited January 26 by Benice

[Eltosian Kadath]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[eclipse]

While this is generally not Serious Discussion material, I'm going to let this one slide as well, due to the timing of the post.  Unless there's a good reason to keep a post like this in Serious Discussion, it'll most likely be moved to General instead.

[EricaofRenais]

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I know the feeling a little too well having lost my dad in November.  I hope you are doing ok and can focus on the good memories because that has been what has helped me.