Frosty Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 READ TOPIC TITLE OKAY TO GET THE PICTURE! Okay... this thing has been bothering me for ages, since around my childhood, around when I began my school days.... Let's get this straight, I've been diagnosed to have fairly high IQ (Above Average level to be exact), but unfortunately.... some people nowadays don't seem to understand those with gifted intellect.... and always brands them Abnormal, Weirdos and Not-In-Society... and let's make things nastier... For the past 10 years of my life, even though some people and my friends value my gift of wisdom and intellect, however those bullies and the others tends to do nasty stuff on me such as... inflicting Physical / Mental injuries, Bullying me around, Ganging up often against me, Frame-setting me up so I can look ugly in my peers and mentors and all other horrible things you can imagine resulted me to be anti-social, lonesome and aloof for around most of the time... Yes... 10 years, that is not a joke.... starting from Elementary days up to end of High school era... and apparently around now at College... I'm still being pestered and haunted with these negative comments branding teens with good intellect are weird, demented and abnormal-ish.... So... anyone with thoughts about this mess that I'm currently strung-up with again? The aura of some kids nowadays are just.... hard to withstand.... Some really don't respect the gift of knowledge.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 It's simple: You're part of the minority that is considered "smart", therefore they ostracise you. And no, that's completely untrue. The smartest guy in my class is a really nice fellow and a good team leader whomo everyone look sup to, and he even got himself nominated into the Student Council for High School after only one year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frosty Posted December 16, 2010 Author Share Posted December 16, 2010 Well... lucky him.... The only good things I get are Honorable Mentions, Attaining Dean's Lister scores and also being able to WTF-PWN in Literature Contests.... The rest... well It's unfortunate... Sadly here in my place, people have "Crab" Mentality in wherein they degrade others to just to be better.... that's where the ostracism starts... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Well... lucky him.... The only good things I get are Honorable Mentions, Attaining Dean's Lister scores and also being able to WTF-PWN in Literature Contests.... The rest... well It's unfortunate... Sadly here in my place, people have "Crab" Mentality in wherein they degrade others to just to be better.... that's where the ostracism starts... Huh, here if you're one of the smarter ones (in one of the good schools, of course) most people treat you as a god, provided you're not a complete jackass that manages to piss everyone off. That being said, maybe they aren't pissed at you because you're smart, but rather because you piss them off in some way or another (pestering them too much, being a nuisance in general, etc.) They're probably using you being smart as an excuse to tease you, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esau of Isaac Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 (edited) Wait, you're being beat up by bullies, and hounded for the past ten years of your life. And you're in college? I mean, unless there is somehow a dean in high school. Which sounds just silly. Even in high school, that's pretty pathetic. Do you make conscious effort to look like an easy target? :V Edited December 16, 2010 by Esau of Isaac Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silvercrow Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 (edited) IQ has absolutely no correlation with how much you get picked on. I'm frankly not sure how you can be smart and not understand this. Edited December 16, 2010 by Silvercrow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excellen Browning Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 (edited) IQ has absolutely no correlation with how much you get picked on. I'm frankly not sure how you can be smart and not understand this. was expecting some sort of herpes-related thread, oh well... True. I've been bullied myself for the greater part of my life, at first blaming my much above average intelligent. Then I wondered why other intelligent people didn't get bullied and learned it had to do with their far superior social abilities.After that, I looked back at my own history and came to the conclusion I was an antisocial asshole when I was younger and got bullied because of that. On a note; social abilities can be learned, once you understand there is some sort of system behind it and what that is. Edited December 16, 2010 by KieranAllmighty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 How often a day do you mention your 'gifted intellect'? 'Cause in Australia at least, that'll get you killed. Sure, you can look and act smart, but if you have any sort of charisma nobody'll give a damn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freohr Datia Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Well everyone who knows me knows I'm pretty smart (just not the smartest) but I never talk. That's what I'm known for. But I don't get bullied. Everyone keeps saying I'm too sweet to be bothered/bullied. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lux Aeterna Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 I'm kinda like Freohr in everything she mentioned. Though, I do get teased by my friends a lot, but I doubt that counts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deliriyum Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Yours schools must suck. Violent bullies don't exist in my high school, only verbal bullies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blasied Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 (edited) I started taking tai-kwon-do lessons when I was nine because I was sick of getting this sort of crap from other people. While I am fairly smart I feel that they just knew I was a very sensitive person (WAS being the operative word, seriously I used to be a male Neimi) and wanted a reaction. School in general kinda sucks. I've been to five different schools and I've had serious troubles with those sorts of people in four of them. I can feel my manliness score going to under negative 9000. Edited December 17, 2010 by Blasied Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Nightmare Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I'm kinda like Freohr in everything she mentioned. Though, I do get teased by my friends a lot, but I doubt that counts. Ditto. Dont get bothered by those people. They bully you just because you'll never be like them, they feel inferior whenever you are around and they have no life :) I used to be bullied by this same issue (except I'm not a super genious like you :)) What I'm trying to say here is that you need to learn not to give a damn. If you give importance to this problem and get angry, you let them win. Yes, let them win in a sense that you get all stressed, ansgty about how people perceive you, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK-201 Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Bullies don't exist in my school for the most part with some exceptions. Silvercrow is correct, IQ has nearly no correlation with how much you get bullied unless you use it to support your own ego. People can have high IQs and be unintelligent as well, using a gift makes it more valuable than having the gift. Also, regarding Frostbite. Somehow every single kid that picks on you knows that you have a high IQ? I think there's a problem with that. The problem isn't being above average, then the top 50% of the class would be bullied. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ansem Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 They pick on you because they know you wont do anything about it. Best solution, do something about it. No one bothers me at my school, dunno about some of the other kids >.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolDeath Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 It's most likely got nothing to do with how smart you may or may not be, and more to do with your personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esau of Isaac Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I started taking tai-kwon-do lessons when I was nine because I was sick of getting this sort of crap from other people. Isn't TKD like one of the worst martial arts to learn when you actually want to be able to fight? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frosty Posted December 17, 2010 Author Share Posted December 17, 2010 (edited) Well... since you mentioned personality.... I happen to be quite delicate in that part... My behavior in the Internet is waaaayyy past different than my behavior in reality... If I'm seen as the noisy type in the interwebs, but in reality... a bit silent and a bit tad aloof.... (Don't you just hate it when nearly everyone in reality is ganging up against you, for a decade, and developing a split personality?!?) And yes... schools here are a bit of a fail in discipline since there's too many students to handle and too many bullies too... sadly... Apparently, kids here have the perception that if a person is smart or intelligent... the person is a weirdo... and that perception is what is grating my brain like nails to a chalkboard.... I am still fortunate I managed to bypass those masochistic hellholes since my peers/mentors/teachers/deans already know my personality well... In terms of dealing with bullies, I do not do the first strike... (cause I know they'll frame-set-me-up) I tend to retaliate in self-defense... Growing in a rather not-so-good environment greatly impacted my personality.... That's why I "suck" in socializing with most of the kids here.... They have mind-grating personalities that I don't like at all.... I recall the days when I was seeking advice from the Guidance Centers in school, and found out the primary reason why do kids often hurt intellectually-gifted ones is because of JEALOUSY.... Some kids even go degrading, injuring them or staining their names so they can look good, and then the smarties and intellects are all going to a living hell.... @Althenian_Memories That thing is what I have been trying to do, I'm already living in happiness and solace in reality, doing as much as I can to finish things that I want to reach, both short and long-term goals.... and also not minding their lowly presence because I know they have no LIFE at all.... One of my nicest classmates told me that their days in the classroom will be bland or boring without me around.... It's like I'm the Torch of the class... (That's because they often ask reasonably good questions involving numerous topics wherein I can easily answer them.... ) @Hemlock Sad truth is sad, "Crab Mentality" is society's bane.... To worsten stuff, both types of bullies exists here... @Mew I'm more of the retaliator now... thinking of an act to counter or divert their horrid attitudes.... That fact about me "not-fighting-back" is already gone.... Reminds me of the Trust V.S Distrust topic from my Psychology class.... It seems I had a dispirited moment during my younger days.... @Esau of Isaac I often make myself a scarce and hard-to-track down target.... and of course I am not that afraid to speak openly to my peers so they can understand the issues I'm going through.... @Iksel Teasing is okay if it's minor, but if it is degrading or makes the image of a person horrible, that is when things will start to look ugly.... Edited December 17, 2010 by Frostbite Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolDeath Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Isn't TKD like one of the worst martial arts to learn when you actually want to be able to fight? Wax on, wax off Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silvercrow Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I guarantee you, there is absolutely no chance you are being bullied because you are smart. Nobody gets bullied because they're smart. I know idiots who have been bullied and geniuses who are incredibly popular, and vice-versa. The correlation between the two is a big fat 0. You're looking for a reason and for some reason are choosing not to blame yourself and simply ascribe the blame to other people. This is wrong and unfair to them (yea, you're being UNFAIR TO THE BULLIES), if you don't want to be bullied, figure out the real reason why and change it. The common reasons people get picked on: - They try to be funny when they're not. - They try to hang around kids who they assume want/don't mind them around, but they in fact do. - You act just plain weird. I don't mean quiet in a corner weird, I mean you're doing legitimately WEIRD stuff in public that makes you a target. - You have a big mouth. Doesn't necessarily mean you talk a lot, but it could mean that when you do talk, you say things you shouldn't. I'm not a guidance counselor or psychiatrist so I'm not gonna say more. But I am 100% certain you are not being bullied because of whatever intelligence you may exhibit. That literally NEVER HAPPENS except maybe on bad TV shows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frosty Posted December 17, 2010 Author Share Posted December 17, 2010 Well... this sums it up...... Gonna write or plan up some changes on the New Year 2011.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Gotta agree with Silvercrow. Try to not be so anti-social, and talk to people in a friendly way. Find something that other people are interested in that you like (for example, I made a lot of friends in my class via playing soccer with them). It does kinda help, though whether you want to act on it is up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frosty Posted December 17, 2010 Author Share Posted December 17, 2010 I'm already doing that and the results were magnificent.... I'm already adjusting well with it, and apparently I'm already friends with the dudes and dudettes from the Broadcasting and Entrepreneurship departments.... So I'm doing fine... And for the rest of my issues... It's already cleared... I'm writing them all down in my secret notes.... Can someone call in a mod? Cause this problem has been officially cleared up.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eclipse Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 So you went from being picked on to cool with everyone? I'm confused! We're all on this same rock floating through space. Try to be nice to everyone, m'kay? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esau of Isaac Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 So you went from being picked on to cool with everyone? I'm confused! He mentioned secret notes. It's probably like that hate list you always see in movies and such. All the people he despises for bullying him as a kid are on it, and he spends the entirety of his adult aging life utterly ruining all of theirs. Classic. :V Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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