Even given choice of words, you know exactly what I mean. Don't try to discredit me, or anyone else holding the same position as I am, over something so trivial as that. My point is, if we separate the religious ceremonies from the legal contracts, then we would have far less problems. Given the current scenario, it is gays walking down the aisle in a church that raises eyebrows, and not necessarily giving gays full legal right (granted, there are some who would object to granting rights as well). In fact, there are occasionally even legal benefits non-married gays living together enjoy over non-married heterosexual couples living together; I remember when insurance for something (unemployment, if memory serves) was denied a friend of my family and their long-time partner because they weren't married, though gays enjoyed the ability to obtain that insurance in what were otherwise the same circumstances. This was in Ohio, JSYK.
My point is, if you SEPARATE the LEGAL JOINING OF TWO PERSONS from the RELIGIOUS BINDING OF FLESH AND SOUL, then gays would have a much easier time of it, and this wouldn't be nearly such a political war.