Junkhead Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 What is it with that? I've seen many people say their problems are worse than others as if they purposely want to victimize themselves so we can feel more empathy for them...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disinnocence Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 So they can brag that they have the worsest(?)problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted35362 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 i'm guilty of this. i think it's pretty much an oversensitive reaction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrostyFireMage Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 A little thing called "Misery Poker". Basically, only the person suffering the most deserves everyone's sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emeraldfox Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 "-sniff sob- My grandparents suffered a violent death in front of me..." "I have worse problems than you. My dog just died. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nobody Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) Because there's a general mentality that says that only the people with the worst problems deserve sympathy. That's the reason why when someone finds another person problems trivial they say: "stop complaining, you're not a starving child in Africa" Edited August 11, 2013 by Nobody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renne Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) I don't understand that mentality either. I certainly would not say I have the worst problems -- hell, in fact, my own issues make me berate myself because I know there are people out there with worse problems. Maybe they are just attention hungry so they say they are the worst...? And it's not being oversensitive. I am a very sensitive person and as I said, I would never say my problems are the "worst." Edited August 11, 2013 by Ninfia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Djeets Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Some people may also said theirs are the worst so they just finally can let it all go out. Just like why when people can't hold the situation anymore, his /her desperation are so hard that they need to scream the whole hour sometimes. Besides, it's not that they "enworse" the situation they already had, it's just that their situation was "that worse" that they had right to be sympathized.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted35362 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 A little thing called "Misery Poker". Basically, only the person suffering the most deserves everyone's sympathy. i don't know. when i bitch about something, i don't expect to get anyone's sympathy either way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1% critted Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Humans want to win, feel victorious, at anything against anyone. So having their problems "feel" worse than yours, means that they are winning against you. By losing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Alear Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 "-sniff sob- My grandparents suffered a violent death in front of me..." "I have worse problems than you. My dog just died. Omg Emerald! I'm so sorry :'( I hope your new dog is really great too... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolate Kitty Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 i don't know. when i bitch about something, i don't expect to get anyone's sympathy either way That mentality leads to the question: Why are you bothering to bitch about it? You don't expect sympathy, you must at least subconsciously want it. On topic: the reason people do that is so you feel sorry for them and not for anyone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emeraldfox Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Omg Emerald! I'm so sorry :'( I hope your new dog is really great too... Ohlul. That was only a scenario, nothing died. Well, my grandparents on my dad's side are dead, but still. I'm surprised no one has said, 'because they're experiencing their problems themseves'. Honesty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceBrand Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Humans want to win, feel victorious, at anything against anyone. So having their problems "feel" worse than yours, means that they are winning against you. By losing. That makes sense, even though it's strange. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted35362 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 i don't know. when i bitch about something, i don't expect to get anyone's sympathy either way That mentality leads to the question: Why are you bothering to bitch about it? oh, i'm not mature enough to answer that question yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Cynthia- Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 They could be trying to put your problems in perspective to make you feel better, but it's more likely they're self centered. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peener weener Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 itt: people talk about human nature like they know what they're talking about Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1% critted Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 itt: people talk about human nature like they know what they're talking about I don't know shit about what I'm talking about. But since I'm writing it on the internet, IT MUST BE TRUE! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted35362 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 itt: people talk about human nature like they know what they're talking about we don't. we're just discussing what we think =] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renne Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 That mentality leads to the question: Why are you bothering to bitch about it? You don't expect sympathy, you must at least subconsciously want it. I think this fits into the topic too, you know. Not just about "bitching" but saying their problems are worse, they probably do want sympathy and/or pity at least on a subconscious level, if not conscious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rehab Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Dunno https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPoTGyWT0Cg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted35362 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 rahab wins thred Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shadowofchaos Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Minmaxing pity levels. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolate Kitty Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5l8ipjTM6C4 what perfect timing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esau of Isaac Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 itt: people talk about human nature like they know what they're talking about Wouldn't it be kinda weird for humans not to know about human nature Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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