DeSu Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 For those who do not know, it's friends who are not in a relationship with one another and have sex/do sexual things with one another( fun, lust, boredom, whatever reason). What are your thoughts on it? Pleasehavedetailedexplanationskthxbai. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix Wright Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Detailed? There is a simple answer: Friends with benefits are awesome. kthxbai (I always wanted to type that, never got the chance to). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeSu Posted March 12, 2009 Author Share Posted March 12, 2009 Detailed? There is a simple answer: Friends with benefits are awesome.kthxbai (I always wanted to type that, never got the chance to). Well I guess that's detailed enough for agreeing XD. (kthxbai is always fun to say :D) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolDeath Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Depends on how responsible the people are, really. Quite some time back, a few friends of mine had that going on. They all caught gonorrhea. I, on the other hand, was in a situation like that with my current girlfriend after we split a while ago, and due to the fact that it was still an exclusive sexual relationship it turned out fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeSu Posted March 12, 2009 Author Share Posted March 12, 2009 Depends on how responsible the people are, really. Quite some time back, a few friends of mine had that going on. They all caught gonorrhea. I, on the other hand, was in a situation like that with my current girlfriend after we split a while ago, and due to the fact that it was still an exclusive sexual relationship it turned out fine. OH GOD... I kinda have a similar situation going on right now( as you, not your gonorrhea ridden friend)... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FurryYunSeong Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Depends on the people mostly. As long as it doesn't involve me, it's hawt. To me, Sex = Relationships I did have a few friends+benefits going on, but, never got to liking them. You really have to love that friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raven Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 I did have a friend with benefits, until I got into a relationship with another. I think it's alright, as long as it's done responsibly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junkhead Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 If would be better to be friends because of the person's personality, not because of the benefits. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rei Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 To me, Sex = Relationships So your relationships are all based around the sex? *sighs* Anyway, I have never had 'friends with benefits.' I don't mind that people have them, but I just prefer not to. I already have a boyfriend and I'd rather stay faithful to one guy instead of just playing around and having sex with my friends. It's more of a moral thing to me (Me!? Having morals!?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kommissar Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Sex is fairly tangled in actual emotional connections, so that can be an issue. There's nothing wrong with friends with benefits, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rei Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Sex is fairly tangled in actual emotional connections, so that can be an issue.There's nothing wrong with friends with benefits, though. Oh I never said it wasn't, but it shouldn't be the entire relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grandjackal Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Pretty much what everyone else says, it's fine with responsibility, like most other things. In fact, I'd think it better than anonymous sex because A. Clean friends is clean, B. You know them better, and C. Flirting is just too much fun to keep away from your own friends. More things to do with friends makes a better friendship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr_e_s Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 So great. In theory. And ifyou can pull it off, good for you, you have my blessing. Didn't work out for me. Feelings tend to build up (not on my end so much, but on hers). Then someone inevitably wants something more, or just moves on, and bam, it's over. Friendship can't ever really be the same. But yeah, while it's going on, totally awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metal Rabbit Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 This reminds me of a Scrubs episode called "My Sex Buddy". J.D. and Eliot boned after a stressful day at work for a few days, and it eventually ended because they mixed up emotion into it. Just like other people said here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hibari Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Like it's been said before, as long as it's done responsibly then I could see it working out. Otherwise..."Outlook not good." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noremaC Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 This reminds me of a Scrubs episode called "My Sex Buddy".J.D. and Eliot boned after a stressful day at work for a few days, and it eventually ended because they mixed up emotion into it. Just like other people said here. Dammit i was going to use that example..... My friend and my brother's friend had a "friends with benefits" thing going on but me and my brother stopped it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junkhead Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 This reminds me of a Scrubs episode called "My Sex Buddy".J.D. and Eliot boned after a stressful day at work for a few days, and it eventually ended because they mixed up emotion into it. Just like other people said here. I thought you weer talking about "40 Year Old Virgin", now, that movie is hilariou, I watched it yesterday(again). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der Kommissar Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 Oh I never said it wasn't, but it shouldn't be the entire relationship. What, sex? It's not. Hence the term FRIENDS with benefits. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manna Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 I've never been in that situation, though I suppose I have been presented with the opportunity? I guess if it works for people, that's fine, but it won't ever work for me. I would be the half of the pair to feel an emotional connection develop, and I know when it ended I'd be the one left feeling hurt, not the other way around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeSu Posted March 12, 2009 Author Share Posted March 12, 2009 imo, So long as both understand that it's not an actual relationship( it's just meant for fun, maybe relieving sexual frustration?), it's fine. I think it's better than just hooking up with a random chick from the street... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyosua Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 I've never done this, and the reason is because I know I would end up being the one who ends up wanting more from it. That said, I see nothing wrong with it, but it must be difficult to keep up without feeling for the other person eventually. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celice Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 I don't see any fault in it. As long as, you know, you're not an idiot about it (trying to make it out to be something more than it is; STDs without notice; "surprises"). If there is an agreement between however many individuals, then let them at it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Palsy Brown Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I don't have any issues with it, but I would probably be unable to do something like this myself unless I fell into a bad case of unconditional love, and even that I'm sure would end badly. I'd feel a bit unfulfilled if there was only sex involved. It seems important to me to use sex as a means to communicate intimate feelings, rather than just for the carnal pleasure itself. A bit of an old fashioned perspective, sure whatever. I can see other people being able to do it without complications, of course -- it requires a different mindset than I have, that's all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bohemund Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 How did I miss this topic? I mean, it's not like I've a special opinion on the matter, however, it isn't my style. Other people can do whatever they want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eclipse Posted March 18, 2009 Share Posted March 18, 2009 I will be the first to say NO. My friends are there to relieve stress, not cause it. Emotion aside, I don't want to deal with the unintended side effects of casual sex. Fortunately, my friends understand this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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