ragnell. Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 For me is a kind of relationship where trust and respect exists, where you don't judge the other for his mistake and you are always there to lend a hand. A bond that is not possessive of the other person and to a certain degree selfless ( being the exception the need of love). A relationship where you share your happiness and your pain and where you grow mutually as a person, reaching new heights spiritually. This makes me wonder if the people with whom I spend most of my time are really my friends.... So what is friendship for you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Florete Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Magic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ragnell. Posted November 18, 2012 Author Share Posted November 18, 2012 1353209487[/url]' post='2187565']Magic. Is it real? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Alear Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 (edited) The people I voluntarily spend my time with outside my family who are not colleagues are friends. I guess people I voluntarily spend time with because they spend time with my friends while I spend time with them (ok that spun a little) would not be my friends. But, those people are almost always a positive influence on things. The only exceptions are those who are so shy (often relatives and significant others) that I barely remember them making a peep after a few hours with them. In that case, I feel bad, because I always worry that I am not doing enough to make them feel welcome. In one case, I am sure I was right, though really, only the friend who brought that person seemed to want them to be there D: Some of just turn out to be quiet, though, and I'm just glad they share their silence with us, except when they talk - then I wish they talked more, but if you tell them that, they clam up. Edited November 18, 2012 by Mouse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pride Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Selfless? I don't know if I could call any human relationship selfless... A person takes on a friend to address needs in their lives. Maybe you need someone to talk to, maybe you need someone to play with, maybe you need someone who is knowledgeable in areas you aren't, maybe you need someone with connections, maybe you just need someone etc etc And as time passes and you invest more in this person and they invest more in you, the relationship grows in personal value and you will grow as a person through shared experience, having reached a deeper understanding of other people and probably yourself so I suppose a friendship is an opportunity for me to grow as a person Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loki Laufeyson Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Magic. Friendship to me is when me and the other person can really truly open up with each other and listen to each other's problems without fear of judgment. To be able to accept each other's differences and still get along. To be able to make really unPC jokes and still laugh. Remember kids, real friends help friends move. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Casual sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rehab Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 I'd like to say a lot of happy things, and the friends I've had have definitely enriched my life, but along with having done kind of a bad job of being a good friend to others going by my standards, I've let some bad spots in a couple ones color the way I see a lot of potential relationships, maybe even people in general if I'm being really dramatic. I made my best friend angry because I misspent an opportunity that, honestly, he probably would've used better then, and he cut off contact. At the time, rather than say how much our friendship meant, which I took for granted was known by both of us, and/or try to mend the breaking bridge, I pretty much poured some gas on it, lit a match and danced a shitty war dance. I pretty much assumed with close friends that it was always obvious we, I don't know, would always support the other no matter what was going on. I realize now I wasn't really thinking about how I was being really hard to respect and to watch mess up for what had to have looked like no reason, but that whole prior assumption has gone to being something I really, really want but now assume I can't possibly find because I'm not worth it. Now, I probably give a lot less to friendships than I want to (and want to receive), I'm kinda preemptively scared all my friends hate me because I'm a horrible, unremarkable, pointless person and they know it, and if I showed more affection the way I'd want to then I'd be pressuring them to be friends with a shitty person so that's not really a considerate option, is it. Haha fuck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helios Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 It's an excuse to have people do stuff for you for free (I'll come up with a srs post later) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MacLovin Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 The feeling of brotherhood when you laugh with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Casual sex. that's my line Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freohr Datia Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Somebody that I like that also likes me? =3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ein Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Somebody that I like that also likes me? =3 This is acceptable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Alear Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 (edited) I'd like to say a lot of happy things, and the friends I've had have definitely enriched my life, but along with having done kind of a bad job of being a good friend to others going by my standards, I've let some bad spots in a couple ones color the way I see a lot of potential relationships, maybe even people in general if I'm being really dramatic. I made my best friend angry because I misspent an opportunity that, honestly, he probably would've used better then, and he cut off contact. At the time, rather than say how much our friendship meant, which I took for granted was known by both of us, and/or try to mend the breaking bridge, I pretty much poured some gas on it, lit a match and danced a shitty war dance. I pretty much assumed with close friends that it was always obvious we, I don't know, would always support the other no matter what was going on. I realize now I wasn't really thinking about how I was being really hard to respect and to watch mess up for what had to have looked like no reason, but that whole prior assumption has gone to being something I really, really want but now assume I can't possibly find because I'm not worth it. Now, I probably give a lot less to friendships than I want to (and want to receive), I'm kinda preemptively scared all my friends hate me because I'm a horrible, unremarkable, pointless person and they know it, and if I showed more affection the way I'd want to then I'd be pressuring them to be friends with a shitty person so that's not really a considerate option, is it. Haha fuck Fuck. Even if I try and say you are amazing, I will probably just sound like "the boy who cried wolf amazing SF user." Edited November 18, 2012 by Mouse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vicious Sal Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Friends are a cheap source of labor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ema Skye Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Friendship is always magic. Unless you don't believe in magic. Then friendship is carrots. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excellen Browning Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 I don't have friends or people I feel close to, I have people who I enjoy giving a piece of my mind to, and receiving a piece of theirs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samias Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Friends are people who I enjoy hanging out with and also make an effort to go and see on a regular basis. I don't expect all my friends to go to the moon and back for me (and vice versa), but likely just by the virtue of enjoying each other's company, we'll do favours for each other so long as it isn't something astronomical. I don't like to burden my friends with my troubles. There's a certain degree of trust I have in my friends but that isn't something that I actively quantify. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ike-Mike Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Friendship is stupid magic! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawk King Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 Friendship is 2 or more people being friendly to eachother. The longer friendship goes on for, the stronger it gets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheEnd Posted November 18, 2012 Share Posted November 18, 2012 They are so few and so weak... yet, they seem to draw strength from each other. Friendship - I must study this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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