Parrhesia Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Romantic feelings.As strongly implied. Edited March 28, 2015 by Parrhesia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErrantDShepherd Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) (This should be a good topic) The best way, as in... What makes the most sense and hopefully works out for all parties involved? ...'cause I dunno that those exist, it all seems highly dependent on the parties involved. Their relative levels of emotional security/maturity... In an ideal world, people could be just straight up about it, no awkwardness from either party, but stating how they feel about the other person in a calm reasoned manner... And if the other person doesn't share the same feelings then its cool. But hell, emotions, adrenaline, mixed signals screw things up all the time... Especially if you either have not been in a relationship either before or in a while... But best way to do it regardless is to not be super desperate for it to work out and play it cool, but that is damn hard sometimes. Edited March 18, 2015 by TheErrantShepherd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Knight Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Three S's: subtle, swift, smooth. I've found that the worst thing you can ever do is make a big deal about it. (Especially if the person has relationship experience and you don't) Grand gestures are for marriage, waiting for the "perfect" moment is just an excuse for your brain to procrastinate. Also, don't look desperate or pitiful, this is the worst thing to do. A lot of people compare confession to tearing off a band-aid, it'll hurt painfully for a split second (if she says no) but you'll feel better afterword. But in truth, the band-aid only exists because you create it in your head, with practice and the right mind-set, you'll realize there was never a band-aid in the first place. In short: DON'T: "I've had my eyes on you for the longest time, ______, will you go out with me? DO: "Do you have plans this weekend? [optional witty/flirty comment insert here]" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ein Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Ask them out on a date. And stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrostyFireMage Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 surprise buttsecks I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErrantDShepherd Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Ask them out on a date. And stuff. Three S's: subtle, swift, smooth. In short: DON'T: "I've had my eyes on you for the longest time, ______, will you go out with me? DO: "Do you have plans this weekend? [optional witty/flirty comment insert here]" So much this. Bad idea to confess before hanging out in some sort of fashion/going on casual date. surprise buttsecks I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. ...I dunno, that seems like it could lead to more awkward situations to me... But I guess depends? Edited March 18, 2015 by TheErrantShepherd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roivann Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 By posting about it on SF, then casually mentioning the thread to them. Worked for me every time I've tried. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ansem Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 surprise buttsecks I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. lol what this is stupid. this would have made a great qotd. gonna jump on the ask her out wagon. being playful can help seal the deal too. but dont be disappointed if the first date doesnt go right, or if she doesnt like you after that. there is a wall between the two of you, and persisting is whittling. keep in mind that there is a fine line between persistence and stalking, so know when to quit. easier said than done i guess haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chen Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 mail them your entire bank Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted March 18, 2015 Author Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) lol what this is stupid. this would have made a great qotd. actually this is right (both things. it is a great qotd and letter-flirting is stupid.) i will contact specta I should add that this question was inspired by real events in my current life but I'm not actually using this as an advice thread, jesus. Edited March 18, 2015 by Parrhesia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrostyFireMage Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 yes I'm sure you guys are all love gurus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esme Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 parrhesia do you wanna fuck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErrantDShepherd Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) yes I'm sure you guys are all love gurus Oh shit... how did you know my secret identity!? :O Edited March 18, 2015 by TheErrantShepherd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Makaze Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Tell them outright. Confidence is important. Dragging it out due to being afraid of rejection has ended in disaster for everyone I've known. Edited March 18, 2015 by Makaze Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eclipse Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Tell them outright. Confidence is important. Dragging it out due to being afraid of rejection has ended in disaster for everyone I've known. Man, why'd you have to be so. . .sensible? Dragging it out also leaves doubt in the other person's mind. This is great, if you want to start a dysfunctional relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Makaze Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Man, why'd you have to be so. . .sensible? Dragging it out also leaves doubt in the other person's mind. This is great, if you want to start a dysfunctional relationship. I'm sorry. I meant don't tell them until after you've killed the competition. Experience is the best teacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted March 18, 2015 Author Share Posted March 18, 2015 yes I'm sure you guys are all love gurus surprise buttsecks I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrostyFireMage Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 your point? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted March 18, 2015 Author Share Posted March 18, 2015 surprise buttsecks I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ansem Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 I think a letter (not a text that's trashy af) confessing your feelings is the best way and can help avoid awkward situations. out of curiosity have you actually done this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tangerine Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 I think that they're giving you a bit of a hard time because you forgot to mention that the letter should be composed with construction paper alphabet and signed with your name as an anagram for maximum effect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrhesia Posted March 18, 2015 Author Share Posted March 18, 2015 I think that they're giving you a bit of a hard time because you forgot to mention that the letter should be composed with construction paper alphabet and signed with your name as an anagram for maximum effect. this is true also dot your is with lovehearts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eclipse Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Don't forget to dot your T's and cross your eyes. . .waitamoment. . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shin Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Be direct, some people just don't get it otherwise. If you do go for a letter, use letters from magazine clippings and sign it in your own blood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thor Odinson Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 make a blood sacrifice to your romance god of preference don't forget extra candles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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